There are a lot of opinions out there on how to raise children, and I'm not suggesting that the following resources will be perfect for your family. But each of them has helped us. A lot.
On Pregnancy and Childbirth
The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth by Henci Goer
The Nursing Mother's Companion by Kathleen Huggins
On Becoming Babywise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam
Shepherding a Child's Heart by Ted Tripp
Effective Parenting in a Defective World by Chip Ingram (video series)
Encyclopedia of Natural Health and Healing for Children: The Complete Guide to Safe and Effective Home Treatments by Marcea Weber
Accountable Kids (chore management system)
A lot of what has worked well for us as a family were things I learned from my own parents, like always eating dinner together, playing family games, doing projects together, reading aloud together, and going camping and for bike rides. From Danny I'm learning to have a regular schedule with clear expectations for each of us. The kids seem to thrive when they know exactly what is expected of them. Accountable Kids has helped with that (see above). We build time for homework, chores, free time, and family time into our schedule to make sure that we haven't overcommitted ourselves and that everything that needs to be done gets done. We have to make adjustments from time to time when we realize that something has slipped or gone out of balance. Most Sunday evenings we have a "family meeting" to talk about any problems or issues that have come up during the week as well as encourage each other and pray together. People often wondered how in the world I could manage grad school while raising 3 kids. Thanks to Danny's organizational skills and a lot of teamwork it was a joyful journey. True, we didn't get "out" much, and we didn't have a clue what was on TV, but we all seemed to thrive. We're so grateful for God's grace to walk this road together!