Those of you who read my blog primarily for theological insights will have to forgive me this summer. Since the kids are out of school I'll be wearing my 'mommy' hat for more hours of the day ... and I'm guessing that will mean more 'mommy-related' posts.
For the past few years I confess that I have been nervous about summertime. Eliana just thrives on structure, and when summer comes I love to wallow in spontaneity, seizing the moment to build memories with the kids. What usually happens is that a lack of schedule from me either provokes a sour mood in her or inspires her to create her own structure, and pretty soon she thinks she should be able to run the show. (Should I mention that she has every half-hour block of her first week of summer planned out already??!!) She's a born leader, and it's not always easy to know how to give her opportunities for leadership and planning without handing over the reins entirely.
This summer is going to be different. I actually can't wait to have her home all day! A big reason is that she and I are doing much better. I've made more of an effort to make plans, and learned to communicate my plans up front so that the day isn't hijacked. But there's another reason I'm excited about this summer. We recently heard about a chore-management, child-training program called Accountable Kids and decided to try it. From day one it has worked wonders in our home! One of my biggest parenting problems is that I'm so busy doing my own chores and thinking about what I want to do with the kids that I forget to make sure they have done their chores. With 3 kids to keep track of, I find it hard to make sure that everyone is on task. When I am thinking about what they need to do, I hate feeling like a drill sergeant, following them around and asking over and over if they've put their clothes away or cleared the table or made their bed or picked up their toys or brushed their teeth....etc etc. But the Accountable Kids system has almost completely eliminated both of those issues. I rarely have to remind them what they should be doing, but it's all getting done! What a relief!
Eliana in particular LOVES the Accountable Kids system. After watching the video on their website she BEGGED us to buy it. When Easton is a bit older, we'll hang his pegboard up, too, so he can join in the fun. Three cheers for a program that has helped me be a better parent, and helped my kids love accountability!
Monday, June 14, 2010
a house that runs like clockwork
Dr. Carmen Imes is the Associate Professor of Old Testament at Prairie College in Three Hills, Alberta, and serves the broader church through teaching, speaking, and writing. She earned a PhD in Biblical Theology (Old Testament) from Wheaton College under Dr. Daniel Block, an MA in Biblical Studies from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary (Charlotte), and a BA in Bible and Theology from Multnomah University. She and her husband, Danny, served as missionaries with SIM 15 years. They have three children: Ana, Emma, and Easton.