2. No being alone with someone of the opposite sex. This is a rule we adopted from our days in Bible College. Even if you're not doing anything wrong, other people who happen to see you alone together don't know that. There's never a time when we're not representing Jesus to the world around us.
3. No compliments to members of the opposite sex. If you've just had your hair cut or have a great new dress, you'll never hear Danny tell you that. And if you're wearing a snazzy tie, don't expect a compliment from me. You just can't be too careful when it comes to members of the opposite sex. Even if you don't mean to be flirtatious, the other person may not be in a place emotionally to be able to handle it well.
4. We make decisions as a team. From little things like 'What should I do on Thursday night?' ... to 'Should I accept this job offer?' ... from 'Should we switch to organic milk?' to ... 'Should I put more money into this car?', life is something we share together, and we honor one another's opinions enough to check first. Sometimes we disagree, sometimes we defer to each other, other times we push off the decision, but the important thing is that we discuss it together. I imagine that Danny has gotten some flack for saying, 'I'll check with Carmen and let you know.' It doesn't sound very 'manly'. But our marriage is a priority for him and that is such a great feeling.
5. Divorce is not an option. It hasn't been an issue yet, anyway, but we made a 65-year committment to each other, and then we plan to re-evaluate. (We figure after that long divorce would not be worth the effort!). :)
I'm so thankful for those who helped us navigate the 'dating' scene so many years ago and who gave us good advice at key junctures. Reilly and Miriam, Ray, Karl, Mary, Mom and Dad, Bonnie and Wayne, Jeff ... each of you helped us to lay a strong foundation for a lifetime together. Thanks!